We’re going to a baseball game then watching the fireworks afterwards.
Let’s see, how many were there?
That’s everything. I’ve officially cut ties with all of the old dudes in my life. I have a clean slate to work with this time and I’m confident that I could find someone interesting to even just hang out with.
When I start talking to someone I make it my mission to find out everything about them. I look at their Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, Twitter, and whatnot. I think I’m crossing a sort of digital line though at some point, especially when I start looking at their public records. Obviously they’re public so ANYONE can see them, but once I see what’s on them I immediately begin to form a perception of this person before I’ve even met them.
This isn’t fair to me or them. I have in my mind this image of how I think the person should be and they have no idea. What’s worse is that they can neither explain nor defend themselves from the various things that I find.
Case and point: I looked up Steve on public records as soon as he told me his last name. Turns out, I didn’t like what I saw. A slew of traffic violations and a misdemeanor.
I immediately screenshot everything and sent it to my best friend. I’m almost embarrassed now that I’m looking back on it. The first thing I told my friend about this man was not how nice he is to me or the fact that he is incredibly successful, I told her that he committed battery back in 2009.
Let’s imagine that you spend your entire life doing remarkable things, but unfortunately the only thing that gets attention is the one thing you did wrong. How fair is that?
I have decided that after this I will no longer look up someone before I meet them. If I had a checkered past I would want the chance to explain what happened, not have everyone find out from a third party.
"Don’t judge me by my past. I don’t live there anymore."
I’m going to reply to your private email too but I feel like other people should know the answer to this question as well.
It’s definitely a good idea to get Plan B if that is what you feel you need to do. I took Plan B once in high school when I was 17. It didn’t make me sick or anything, and obviously it worked.
Please make sure that you are extra safe with sex, especially when secrecy is involved. Any sexual relationship that occurs during your youth or with someone you aren’t committed to needs to be taken very seriously as far as sexual health is concerned.
I recommend that you use more than one form of birth control for two reasons. First, you’re keeping yourself extra safe from both pregnancy and STDs/STIs, neither of which are very much fun when you’re young. Second, if you’re fooling around with someone who has a significant other already and you end up pregnant, that’s probably going to blow your cover…
I’m hoping that you used protection and that you’re on the pill and that you’re just staying on the safe side. Don’t be afraid or ashamed. You’re taking responsibly and owning up to whatever may have gone wrong that warrants needing Plan B. As far as Plan B itself goes, make sure you read all of the instructions. I think I ended up taking a cheaper version of it which had two pills instead of one and it was like $10 cheaper. You take the first pill, then the second a certain number of hours afterwards. That’s always an option if they offer that at the drug store you’re going to.
STAY SAFE!!!!! :)
I banged Max today. I told myself for a month straight that the next time he asked I wouldn’t. He blew me off two weeks ago and I told myself I was done. I deserve better.
You can’t just send me a picture of a dick and expect me NOT to fuck it. Also, I was on the phone with my cable company trying to fix my internets while taking these screenshots.
Anyhow, I picked him up and we did the dirty, talked about Game of Thrones, and I drove him home. Pretty simple. Also, pretty lame.
Promise after this time I’m done ;)
First of all, thank you and I missed you too! I’m sorry I didn’t get to this sooner :(
It’s ok to react the way that you do when it comes to relationships. A lot of people just let things happen and don’t invest feelings into them. Men are usually more guilty of it than women, but I know exactly how you feel. I feel like once you date someone that you just can’t see yourself without then you will start to warm up. Also, if someone really cares about you they will accept you for who you are, hot or cold.
I wouldn’t necessarily say that giving up on dating is the right answer, I would just continue to keep it casual. There’s no ‘right’ way to act in a relationship other than just generally respectful, and you shouldn’t try to change who you are to make someone else happy.
Let a guy know after talking to him for a while, maybe even during the first date, that you’re just looking for something casual and low-key. A lot of guys will probably be ok with this because it’s less stressful.
Let things happen and continue to be yourself. You’ll find someone who either accepts the way that you are, or brings out a beautiful side of yourself that you didn’t even know you had. Don’t let one bad apple ruin your dating fun!
To be continued….
I’m back!!! Thank you for thinking of me! I missed all of you! :)
At 21 years old I am dealing with a lawsuit.
What had happened wuzzz…
Back in January a woman and I were in a suicide lane attempting to pull into traffic. Suicide lanes are basically the thunderdome of traffic, and I happen to use this particular one every time I leave my apartment. Anyhow, I was right behind her and she started to pull out, so I looked over my right shoulder to make sure I could follow her. Then for no particular reason she stopped in the middle of the god damn road. I only bumped her going about 4 miles an hour and we were both fine. She drove away and my car was towed.
At least that’s what she said.
Now, six months later she has filed a law suit claiming that she was horrendously injured during the accident and wants compensation to the tune of tens of thousands of dollars. At the time I had an older Scion xD which was under my father’s name (he bought it for me when I was 16), so she’s suing both myself and my pops.
I have more than enough coverage on my insurance so I’m not worried about cost, it’s just a pain in my ass to be constantly harassed by her attorneys. I’m also livid because I know she probably did this on purpose to get some money. My insurance company told me she did something similar to this in 1999, and last year someone filed a judgement against her for an unspecified amount.
Moral of the story, people are disgusting.
I bawled for hours after I hit her. I was so disappointed in myself for hitting someone, and I was mostly mad at myself for damaging this beautiful car. RIP Scion ‘Pussywagon’ xD…
Let me start off by apologizing. I’m sorry I took a little hiatus and I don’t really have any great excuses. Sometimes life just gets weird and you have to deal with what’s in front of you first.
I can say that I am back with a vengeance and I will be spending the next few days updating you on what’s been going on. Some of it has to do with dating and some of it has to do with the other aspects of my life.
Looking forward to catching up with everyone!!!